Jewish Get
I am feeling so overwhelmed with emotion today. Nothing like I have felt…ever, I break down at the drop of a hat and I wish that I could say that it is for no reason. I don’t know if it is the anticipation of a new life or the regret of loosing the old but the reality is that I am getting divorced today at 11:45am. I can barely breath let alone speak right now and I am questioning my ability to drive to Los Angeles.
Today I am getting a Jewish Get or divorce decree. This is the final stage in the process and basically severs ties. This is how I understand it:
“The get makes no reference to responsibility or fault. It has no bearing or effect on any aspect of the civil settlement and does not does not subject either party to personal questions. As long as there is mutual consent, there is no need to state the grounds for divorce. Although religious in nature, the process involves no ceremonies, prayers, blessings, or professions of faith at all.
For most Jews, a marriage begins with a Jewish ceremony uniting two people. The get ends, or terminates that union. It is a formal, clear-cut, legal process which requires only the consent of both parties.�
Seems simple, but even before I start my drive there are tears. Not sure if I am happy or sad.
Yesterday we signed the settlement papers at Caline’s attorneys office. Not my best moment, I just wanted the process to be finished and spare the time wasting for another day. I came off as abrasive, I just want to get this done. I wrote the check, I know what my obligations are and I know what has just ended. What I don’t know and what scares me is what lies ahead.
The world is filled with possibilities, nothing less than amazing promise. So one step at a time, all will be renewed.
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